It's ok if it doesn't make sense.

Finding the ability to feel lighthearted, rather than fuelling that inner resistance towards these moments of change, is, in my opinion, the key to being able to enjoy life as it comes in all its mysteries and goodness.

Do things really change overnight?

Life often presents the idea that change can happen in an instant—an unexpected event, a shift in perspective, or an unforeseen encounter. But when it does, the impact is rarely straightforward.

Inspirational quotes, the news, social media and stories we hear all around us, reinforce this idea that transformation can happen suddenly. But from personal experiences, it's shown me that while change may arrive unexpectedly, its effects often take time to process and transpose change into our everyday lives. Which can more often than not leave us leave us feeling like no big change ever comes about straight away. And it can feel hopeless, leading us to choose to avoid change at every cost possible.

When life disrupts carefully laid-out plans.

Just when you think you begin to understand the trajectory of your life, something unexpected shakes up your reality. A typical day, a casual plan—then, suddenly, an experience unfolds that can unapologetically rewrite your whole life script. A connection, a realisation, a moment of clarity can shift everything. These disruptions often challenge what we thought we once wanted. What we believed would be the key to creating our happiness. And it does tend to force us to reflect upon what we thought would make us happy, yet somehow now seems irrelevant to us. And then what? We feel lost. The backbone to our bleak future has been dismantled, and what once seemed foggy at best about our future is now completely and utterly clouded.

No roadmap doesn't mean we're lost.

But then again, the most unexpected changes rarely come with a roadmap—they arrive unannounced. Despite the frustration, the fear and the anxiety that we end up feeling, it might be a moment where we can choose to slow down and choose to realise the meaning in it all with calmness and patience. Sometimes, realising that clarity in the midst of it all, without having had prior ideas or expectations to guide us forward, can be the best thing for us.

The harsh reality: Some things are not meant for us.

However, not every experience leads to permanence, and not every connection is meant to last.

An encounter that can feel effortless initially can leave us feeling confused and drained later on down the line. An event or occurrence we once wished for, believing it would make our lives better, ends up making us feel disheartened and empty.

Inevitably, though, our lives change. We stop to wonder, 'Why did this have to happen to me?' or 'Why did I have to meet this person?'. Because unless change brings about instantaneous positive outcomes, we automatically jump to wishing we had never come across this new path in our lives. Mostly, it's because the new circumstances make it seem practically impossible to be able to continue moving forward in life.

The mindless, vicious cycle.

It’s oftentimes our mind that struggles with this reality. It begins to replay past moments on repeat in search of possibilities or alternate routes we could've taken to have a chance at altering the outcome of our current reality.

But sometimes, no matter how significant something feels, it may not always make sense to us. The clarity and meaning may not come which in all honesty can suck and cause heartache. But choosing to accept and be grateful for these experiences allows us to appreciate them in that very moment, instead of letting stress and anxiety cloud it, while pushing us to worry about the future.

Letting emotions exist without needing answers.

Oftentimes, our instinct is to seek clarity by defining what something means and where it fits and belongs in the broader scope of our lives.

However, when we give in to the urge to categorise an experience to try to find logic in what feels emotionally overwhelming, it mostly leads us into a state of cyclical frustration rather than resolution.

Sometimes, emotions don’t need immediate explanations. Sitting with them—allowing them to naturally unfold can be more valuable to us than rushing and actively trying to define them.

Finding the ability to feel lighthearted, rather than fuelling that inner resistance towards these moments of change, is, in my opinion, the key to being able to enjoy life as it comes in all its mysteries and goodness.

Final thoughts.

Life has a way of introducing unexpected lessons—not always through planned moments, but through the ones that catch us off guard.

A once insignificant connection suddenly holds meaning. A perspective that felt certain is now challenged. A dream that acted as our north star has now become an unnerving reality.

But perhaps the lesson isn’t about understanding the meaning behind every emotion, every feeling and experience.

Maybe, just maybe, we can start to choose embracing the experience rather than chasing answers, and allow that greater sense of clarity we crave to naturally reveal itself to us over time.

At the end of the day, life doesn’t always, if ever, follow a predictable course. And perhaps that’s the beauty of it.

Amelia X

A moment of silence and reflection can be a powerful tool for navigating internal chaos.

Not every experience will hold the answers we're searching for.

Despite life not making sense, it's still important to continue living it to your full enjoyment.