No Rules, Just Life: Time to Create Your Own Path.

Maybe it’s not about making the right next decision, but about fully embracing the fact that there are no rules, and simply testing out the waters as we take it one day at a time.

You can literally do whatever you want.

There is no right or wrong way to live. You are your own judge, the sole decider of your life. The moment you step into that truth and claim it as your own, you begin freeing yourself from society’s views, expectations, and conformist habits.

A night out in London.

“There are no rules,” he says, laughing as we reflect on how life often makes no sense. The night stretches into the early hours, warmed by the red-light heaters outside the bar—just moments before we’re told to head inside.

I went out in London this Saturday to catch up with my old flatmates, as I have since moving back home. Nights like these always bring unexpected connections, new places, and conversations that shift perspectives. This time, I met a mid-20s guy from New Zealand, introduced through one of my flatmates. What intrigued me most? He never went to university. He travelled simply because London seemed fun, after touring America for two months with his band. Living day by day, working in hospitality, making life up as he goes along—it’s the kind of freedom that defies every expectation society places upon us.

This, to me, is living for yourself. It’s stepping beyond the imagined rules—beyond career expectations, rigid timelines, and external pressures that dictate how we dress, work, or even present ourselves.

Finding connection in shared struggles.

We often believe we’re alone in our struggles—uncertain about the future, weighed down by financial pressures, or lacking the confidence to take that next step. But when we look around, we see how many people are navigating the same challenges.

There is power in finding companions, even if only briefly. A conversation, a shared story, a piece of advice can remind us that we are not isolated in our experiences.

After speaking with that guy, I felt lighter. The pressure to take the perfect next step faded. Instead, I embraced simply taking a step—any step—toward something that excited me, no matter how small.

The dilemma of knowing and not knowing.

People in their 20s often land at two extremes. Some have a perfectly clear vision of their future, mapped out in such detail that they already know what their life will look like a decade from now. But with that certainty comes stagnation. What excitement exists when you already know exactly where you’re heading?

Then, there are those who wake up every day with no idea where they’re going, like stepping into fog, only able to see the next move ahead. It’s terrifying and often leads to demotivation, a lack of inspiration.

Striking a balance for your own comfort.

So, how do you find the middle ground? It’s about knowing just enough about what lies ahead while still leaving room for spontaneity. It’s about living with excitement and a touch of nervousness—trusting that good things are coming, even if you aren’t gripping tightly to control.

What if the solution isn’t making the right choice but releasing the pressure of making any choice at all? What if it’s about believing there is no single way to “do life”?

I used to believe in the illusion of the perfect life. Graduating with honors, landing a top finance job, securing financial independence—those achievements seemed like success. But after two years in corporate finance, I felt trapped. Despite knowing exactly where my career was headed, I felt more disconnected than ever. The certainty didn’t bring fulfilment—it drained it. Because deep down, I was living a life shaped by societal expectations, not my own desires.

No rules, just life—time to create your own path.

Maybe it’s not about making the right next decision, but about fully embracing the fact that there are no rules.

There is no single path to fulfilment. There is no universal formula for success. The moment we let go of the idea that life must be done a certain way, we step into something freeing.

That doesn’t mean abandoning reason or common sense. It simply means trusting ourselves, knowing that if something doesn’t feel right, then it simply isn’t right for us.

People say your 20s are for taking risks, exploring, and figuring things out. But why should that only apply to one decade of life? Life is meant to be explored, experienced, and appreciated at every stage, not just when society tells us it’s time.

The journey’s reward.

What happens when we embrace this way of thinking? We trade rigid expectations for experiences, connections, and memories beyond anything society could ever promise. Instead of forcing life to fit a plan, we allow it to unfold. Our lows teach us, and our highs take our breath away. And the moment we release the illusion of the perfect life, we make room for something even better—the natural rhythm of existence, guiding us through its peaks and valleys.

It isn’t easy, but it’s possible. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that we are never truly alone in our journeys—not if we remain open to those walking alongside us.

Remember, it’s not about reaching the peaks or avoiding the lows. It’s about embracing each moment for what it is—without rules, without restrictions.

Amelia X