Vulnerability - The Ultimate Superpower.

The key isn’t about eliminating fear—it’s about accepting that vulnerability doesn’t guarantee success, but rather equips us to adapt to whatever outcome we face.

Choosing vulnerability over hesitation.

Should I be honest about how I feel right away, or should I walk away and continue romanticising a fantasy in my head for the next week?

These are the questions I’ve been asking myself lately. Should I leap and act on my feelings, or should I let them linger, preserved in the safe, untouchable space of what if?

Truthfully, I usually choose the latter. But deep down, I aspire to be the kind of person who chooses courage over hesitation—someone who acts and isn’t afraid of vulnerability.

Lessons from a three-year-old.

Today, while looking after my friend’s three-year-old daughter, I took her to a children's disco party. On the way home, she spotted a boy she had danced with earlier and, without hesitation, waved enthusiastically. The boy glanced in her direction but didn’t wave back or even smile.

What struck me wasn’t his lack of response—it was hers. She continued walking, content and carefree, untouched by the moment.

Watching her, I felt amazed. How did she move on so effortlessly?

It made me realise something important: rejection is inevitable. We don’t always get the response we want, but isn’t the real challenge about how we handle those emotions afterwards, rather than the rejection itself?

Why does rejection feel harder as we become adults?

As children, we exist in safe bubbles—protected by caregivers, blissfully unaware of the complexities of the world. When rejection comes, we shrug it off, knowing our safety net is still intact.

But as we grow older, we trade carefree ignorance for overthinking. Hurt accumulates, disappointment lingers, and we build walls to shield ourselves.

Over time, our fear of rejection morphs into a fear of embarrassment, making vulnerability feel like an unbearable risk.

I’ve experienced this firsthand. I’ve made decisions based on anchoring bias, letting past experiences dictate my approach rather than treating each moment as a fresh start. But life isn’t meant to be a repetition of past wounds. To fully live, we need to stop letting previous rejections shape future opportunities.

The true power of vulnerability.

So, how do we embrace vulnerability and act on our desires?

The key isn’t about eliminating fear—it’s about accepting that vulnerability doesn’t guarantee success, but rather equips us to adapt to whatever outcome we face.

Vulnerability, reframed, is liberating. It strips away the weight of assumptions and allows us to act instinctively—without backup plans, without overthinking.

Yes, it’s terrifying. But it’s also freeing.

A friend once told me, “Don’t try to impress people. Just impress yourself.” That idea stayed with me. It’s not about controlling how others react—it’s about honouring your courage so that, in the end, you feel proud of who you are.

Facing vulnerability—the ultimate superpower.

While travelling in Croatia this summer, I went to a friend’s birthday party and met someone—tall, handsome, a doctor. He was charming, interesting, and it was now or never.

For the first time in a while, I chose vulnerability. I asked if he wanted to get a drink.

I was nervous. Exposed. But I tried to focus on the being brave part.

Then, the reality check: He was engaged, getting married next year.

A bittersweet moment. The fantasy evaporated, and yes, it stung. But I walked away knowing something powerful—I had faced my fear of rejection, embraced vulnerability, and saved myself days of entertaining an illusion that wasn’t real.

I didn’t leave empty-handed. I left empowered.

Choosing courage over fear.

At the end of the day, we all crave connection—it’s human nature.

But fear of rejection tricks us into believing vulnerability is too dangerous. The truth is, vulnerability isn’t the enemy—it’s how we grow.

It teaches us that the outcome doesn’t matter as much as the act of showing up for ourselves.

Every moment of courage strengthens us. Vulnerability isn’t about exposing ourselves recklessly—it’s about releasing assumptions, welcoming possibility, and adapting with grace.

Embracing the risk—choosing to live fully.

There’s a saying: “None of us is getting out of here alive.”

With that in mind, I want to take every opportunity for growth, connection, and experience—even if it comes with a little pain. Vulnerability may feel like a risk, but ultimately, it sets us free. And the more we embrace it, the less time we waste on 'what-ifs'.

Amelia X

A quiet moment with a book and coffee—vulnerability thrives in simplicity.

Embrace vulnerability—confidence grows when you let yourself be open.

The journey matters—vulnerability is part of the adventure.